r u ready ?

You can always choose whether you want to have sex, whoever you're with. Just because you've done it before, even with the same person, doesn't mean that you have to do it again.

Working out whether you're ready is one of life's big decisions. You're the only one who can, and should, decide. Whether you're thinking about losing your virginity or having sex again, remember the following tips.

It's better to have an embarrassing talk about sex than an embarrassing sexual encounter before you're ready.

There are lots of things to think and talk about, such as:

  • are you both ready?
  • will you be having sex for the right reasons and not because of peer pressure?



the law

The law says that a young person can use a sexual health service or get treatment at any age without their parent's permission as long as they are what is called Fraser Competent and understand what they are doing.

The age of consent in England and Wales for people of any sexual orientation is 16. For more details click here.

If a young person is under 13 the law says they cannot consent to having sex. Having sex with anyone under 13 is rape even if they consent.




Sex isn't the only aspect of a relationship, and there are other ways of enjoying each other's company. Discuss what you want and what you don't want to do. You can do other things that you both like, such as talking, meeting each other's family and friends, going to gigs or the cinema, doing sport, walking, and listening to music.

You need to have the confidence to work out how you want to respond if sex comes up, and how far to go. Ask yourself if you feel comfortable. Is it the right time, in the right place, and with the right person? Do you really trust the person, and do you feel the same way about one another?

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Alcohol changes the way you act and the decisions you make. Some people say alcohol makes them feel confident and less self-conscious but the more you drink, the less careful you are and you can end up doing things that you regret afterwards. Deciding to have sex and giving someone consent to have sex with you is usually better done with a clear head. There are things you can do to try and reduce the risks:

  • stick with friends, watch out for them and ask them to watch out for you
  • make decisions when you are sober about how far you want to go
  • be prepared. If you are ready to have sex, sort out your contraception before you drink and always carry a condom

If you do drink alcohol, are you happy with the amount you drink and the choices you have made when drinking? For more information go to: